It is not enough to find your bliss; you have to fight for it. ~ Amy Shea
It takes poetry sometimes. Sometimes I have trouble, explaining directly about happiness.
We have not been taught, after all, that happiness is not a soft thing whatsoever. It is not the blurred focus of the greeting cards. So buy and send them off, a wish to be fulfilled by someone else. So easy, our favorite thing.
So I tell people to imagine happiness as already there, with them, as waiting, as always-has-been-waiting, and not, as they imagined, a thing they wait and wait for to show up after all.
That becomes too much for them. They order a drink, or jab a quick one-liner, and change the subject. They think to themselves, “who invited this odd-ball writer?”
They change the subject because, as we all know, telling un-agreed upon truths is frowned on in social settings. Changing the subject, then, is listed under “social graces,” and strongly advised, and even rewarded with things like good opinion and the distinction of being a leader among less party-enabled citizens.
But, it is still true, as all truths are, for real truths don’t care if they are discussed or not, or whether the light is on or off. They are confident, and have amazing patience. It is us who suffer as we sigh and whisper into our pillows, “I just want happiness, and nothing more.”
And we wait for it to visit.
And we imagine it looks like pretty things, or certain people behaving exactly as they should. We imagine things going our way, the way they are supposed to go, obviously, and as they would if others would just stop getting in the way. We imagine ourselves undisturbed.
And we name this non-disturbance happiness, and know exactly its shape and measurements.
And we say–again, into our pillows–“I will go and find it. Tomorrow.”
And here we are, as we started out; here we are at the truth. So patient.
Happiness is not the softness of pillows and having our way with things, people and places.
Happiness is not a synonym for words like easy, now, and effortless.
Happiness wears a thick motorcycle jacket, with road rash on the sleeves. It stares at things, to see just what it sees, and not ideas of things. It doesn’t say “he/she/they are responsible for me.” It never blames, does not complain. It does not explain itself, or where it’s been. It knows its purpose, and applies all its will to it–and what’s around the bend is of absolutely no importance.
It defends itself, bravely, from all imposters.
And when you, pillow talker, prefer the imposters with their secret cures and stories of easy street, happiness waits. When you wish it would leave, just go, just take its truth and hit the road, it waits. When you beg it, don’t stare at me from the mirror, happiness waits.
It waits to be chosen. It does not leave you. It has faith.
Go ahead. Turn your head to see its face. Any time now works just fine for it.